tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post1481050770715292193..comments2023-06-16T08:01:04.540-05:00Comments on Alex's Adventures: Great Weekend!Alexhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07524692943966582775noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-64420224118175947032010-08-03T08:06:11.097-05:002010-08-03T08:06:11.097-05:00Love your bracelet and what it means to you. I hav...Love your bracelet and what it means to you. I have come to the conclusion that people don't understand infertility unless they have lived it themselves. I recently had a chat with a friend of mine who knows about my blog and I told her I am lucky to have such a great community and she asked what community that was. I told her it was an IF community, she laughed and said "honey you got pregnant you are not infertile!" I looked at her took a deep breath and explained her that yes I was an infertile and just because I got lucky and IVF worked for us does not make me instantly fertile. I know we will need IVF to try for baby number 2 and that given my ovarian reserve is diminishing we might never get a second chance at this, so that all that makes me infertile. She didn't get it.<br />Hang in there sweetie ...Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06372510531044243177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-71957307986582775322010-08-03T07:40:51.811-05:002010-08-03T07:40:51.811-05:00People have such strange, complicated reactions to...People have such strange, complicated reactions to this. And those reactions are so frequently unhelpful...or puzzling. Even people you'd expect to be well-equipped to deal with it. I think that's one of the things that compounds this "on a desert island feeling". <br /><br />I'm glad you had relatively good visits, though. And I also love the idea of the charm bracelet. It's thoughtful and meaningful.Adelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06955659206478903815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-67167746451993329952010-08-02T23:10:30.777-05:002010-08-02T23:10:30.777-05:00I'm glad it was such a nice weekend, and I agr...I'm glad it was such a nice weekend, and I agree that this reaction to miscarriage is odd. But expected and probably the norm. I haven't tested it out on people, myself, as I expect this sort of reaction (or pity, or drama, which would both be WORSE-- my family is big-time into gossip and drama... leave me out!). But I admire that you are out with it to your friends and family. Very much.<br /><br />I love the charm bracelet, and I feel you'll get your baby charm soon. Then your nurse friend will thus be "proved" right about you :) (not really of course- you definitely qualify!) but you won't mind her gloating a bit!Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445064184402702224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-42480708984645506542010-08-02T22:57:43.722-05:002010-08-02T22:57:43.722-05:00I love your charm bracelet :)
I agree, it's s...I love your charm bracelet :)<br /><br />I agree, it's so odd how people react. I haven't had any really bad reactions yet (except for the normal "why don't you just adopt?" etc.) but I've heard some horror stories. I don't feel comfortable discussing it with my mom - not sure why - but if I did and she changed the subject like that I would be very annoyed. Can you talk to your mom about how you felt about how she reacted? All I can think of is that they are afraid to go on because you might not want to talk about it (which is still weird if you brought it up...) and they don't know what to say. If only they read these blogs ;)jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06645802594940433840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-4362630484061815712010-08-02T19:13:16.506-05:002010-08-02T19:13:16.506-05:00I'm glad that you had a good weekend! Were yo...I'm glad that you had a good weekend! Were you adopted because they were going through infertility? maybe that has something to do with why your parents won't talk about it? Your bracelet is very beautiful, and I'm sorry that you had to have the hearts on it, but I know that they bring you comfort! And on the wedding, I wish we had done a destination wedding, you must have sooooo many great memories associated with the trip!<br /><br />Hugs to you!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14778859175461382675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-90780971551439929282010-08-02T15:22:28.343-05:002010-08-02T15:22:28.343-05:00I am so glad you had a relaxing weekend. I find t...I am so glad you had a relaxing weekend. I find that a lot of people are uncomfortable talking about IF -- but I keep doing it anyway. After all, it took me YEARS to even use the word "infertile" in relation to myself. I almost felt if I said it, I would make it real and jinx any hope we had at having a baby. I've finally come around, and am as open as I can be about it. If someone asks, I tell them. I post about it on FB. Most people run the other way, but a few have reached out, and those are the ones who make it all worthwhile.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />JoJohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00671922064140460790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-59244058857097880082010-08-02T14:54:47.694-05:002010-08-02T14:54:47.694-05:00Love the bracelet! I'm glad that (overall) it...Love the bracelet! I'm glad that (overall) it was a good visit to Denver for you! Can't wait to hear more about all the places you get to visit in Europe....Mel.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17095162408557764223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-66166188808301839492010-08-02T13:32:46.288-05:002010-08-02T13:32:46.288-05:00Lol... Uh I "ooze" the bracelet? My ipa...Lol... Uh I "ooze" the bracelet? My ipad is weird... I "love" it...Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05382638658909144208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-13432892474593506792010-08-02T13:32:01.130-05:002010-08-02T13:32:01.130-05:00I ooze the charm bracelet. So meaningful. I thin...I ooze the charm bracelet. So meaningful. I think I finally have figured out what I want to use to remember our loss. It is hard to find what has the right meaning.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05382638658909144208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-24004305808416020232010-08-02T13:21:41.243-05:002010-08-02T13:21:41.243-05:00Sounds like a great weekend. And it's a beauti...Sounds like a great weekend. And it's a beautiful charm bracelet. Those books sound amazing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-83379647517936816262010-08-02T13:05:21.637-05:002010-08-02T13:05:21.637-05:00Thanks!! I think I'm going to get one similar...Thanks!! I think I'm going to get one similar, I love that I can add stuff as more things happen.<br /><br />And yes, hoping you'll be adding one of the baby charms very, very soon. <3ALhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150067629614839175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-51445028180671580682010-08-02T12:56:07.889-05:002010-08-02T12:56:07.889-05:00Al, I got the charm bracelet from bluenile.com. T...Al, I got the charm bracelet from bluenile.com. There are a lot of charms available, and so I expect that I will continue to be able to add charms as events happen in my life. Maybe one will be a baby someday...Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07524692943966582775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-87315268765856133862010-08-02T12:21:57.248-05:002010-08-02T12:21:57.248-05:00I'm so glad you had a nice weekend in Denver w...I'm so glad you had a nice weekend in Denver with your mom and your friends. And I'm so excited for your trip to Europe - it's going to be amazing :-)<br /><br />I love, love, love your charm bracelet. Where is it from? Such a perfect way to remember. I've been thinking about getting something similar to recognize the losses, I have the necklace for the miscarriage, but I do want something more for the ectopic.<br /><br />It's so hard to bring up these hard things in conversation and not send people running. I'm finding that I really need to talk about it, but when is it appropriate to discuss? Can I not bring it up at a party? It's my life, it's a huge part of me, infertility and pregnancy loss, and it's not healthy to hide it, but it seems I'm only making others uncomfortable and that's awkward.ALhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150067629614839175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-72202570358092861322010-08-02T11:55:37.570-05:002010-08-02T11:55:37.570-05:00I'm glad you had a good weekend. That is real...I'm glad you had a good weekend. That is really odd about your parents though. I wonder why they are so uncomfortable with the subject? Although I must say that my family is awkward and oddly quiet around me. I think they just don't know what to say with the exception of the one aunt who is an IFer. <br />I'm so jealous of your Europe trip. I've been reminiscing about our last visit to the UK this weekend and talking about our next trip whenever that will be. I hope you have a blast!junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16597959014121851131noreply@blogger.com