tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post7018567056116636022..comments2023-06-16T08:01:04.540-05:00Comments on Alex's Adventures: Weekend with my MomAlexhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07524692943966582775noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-32936240368186845652018-11-17T08:28:02.744-06:002018-11-17T08:28:02.744-06:00We tried to get pregnant for a few years in a loca...We tried to get pregnant for a few years in a local clinic. There were no results. We've tried everything possible but nothing. We were recommended to use donor eggs. I knew we have to try herbal made medicine. I was terrified. I didn't know how to go about it and where to begin my search. When my friend recommended me to Dr Itua herbal medicine in Western African. I thought she was joking. I knew nothing about that country and I was afraid with shame I must say I thought it was a little bit...wild? Anyway she convinced me to at least check it out. I've done the research and thought that maybe this really is a good idea. Dr Itua has reasonable prices. Also it has high rates of successful treatments. Plus it uses Natural Herbs. Well I should say I was convinced. I and My Husband give a try and now we can say it was the best decision in our lives. We were trying for so long to have a child and suddenly it all looked so simple. The doctors and staff were so confident and hopeful they projected those feelings on me too. I am so happy to be a mother and eternally thankful to Dr Itua and Lori My Dear Friend. Don’t be afraid and just do it! Try Dr itua herbal medicine today and sees different in every situaton.Dr Itua Contact Info...Whatsapp+2348149277967/drituaherbalcenter@gmail.com Dr Itua have cure for the following diseases.All types of cancer,Liver/Kidney inflamatory,Fibroid,Infertility.Diabetes,Herpes Virus.<br />Ahitra Gaethonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03631203606492364972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-54514695322761306742012-11-01T08:20:45.512-05:002012-11-01T08:20:45.512-05:00It says a lot about you that you became such a wel...It says a lot about you that you became such a well-adjusted, loving person despite your mother. I'm glad you have a good relationship with your MIL, but I know how disappointing it is when your mother doesn't step up to the plate even when you expect she won't (and my mother isn't half as bad as yours!), so I'm sorry for that. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-46706629159498239202012-10-31T18:49:04.212-05:002012-10-31T18:49:04.212-05:00Wow, it was exhausting just reading that, I can&#...Wow, it was exhausting just reading that, I can't imagine spending 4 days with her.<br /><br />At least you realized it isn't all you, it is her. That must be some level of relief.<br /><br />And twins will be hard, but you are a great mom and you will figure it out! And all three of those children are soooooo lucky to have YOU as a mom!!!kkasunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02183334533316759163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-53707034774073103572012-10-31T10:24:57.444-05:002012-10-31T10:24:57.444-05:00OMFG. Alex - I don't even know where to begin....OMFG. Alex - I don't even know where to begin. Her reaction to your new is... not okay. I know you know this, but man ALIVE. I am very sorry that she is like, but I am over-joyed that you realize that it is not about you in any way. Which is not to say that it does not impact you, because the gravitational pull of a black hole is strong... but man ALIVE. Reading this now makes me feel so proud, and so much stronger for *myself*, and I thank you so much for that. Your advice to me in the last few weeks takes on new meaning, and makes me draw from your strength of character and the limitations you set for yourself, but more importantly for Alex and your TWO new little ones. Good for you. xoxoSRBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17772530853175744367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-69455433894569804282012-10-30T23:36:31.839-05:002012-10-30T23:36:31.839-05:00Wow - I love that you had such a great weekend ful...Wow - I love that you had such a great weekend full of revelations about your mother (and how her negativity is NOT about you!!). I cannot imagine how hard that was to truly accept and realize. YAY for surrounding yourself with happy people!! Joshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13423295019681051881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-38741157820647541842012-10-30T23:32:51.666-05:002012-10-30T23:32:51.666-05:00I just re-read this because I cannot believe how s...I just re-read this because I cannot believe how similar our mothers are. Down to the doting only when they have an audience. My mom, who sees Matthew once every 3 months even though they only live 1.8 hours away, said to him (the last time we saw her), "well, you sure aren't the smiley baby you used to be." WHAT? I about died - I almost came unglued. But I didn't - because it's her loss. It's her problem. It's her sickness. The only reason he wasn't smiling at HER was because he can read her - he knows what's up. He knows that she has no interest in knowing him, or holding him, or playing with him. He knows that she is only a grandmother in name and not in heart. He knows that she is a stranger to him. Babies can tell these things. Of course he wouldn't smile at her hateful self.<br /><br />The only thing we can do is decide whether or not we're going to expose our children to that. I have vowed not to. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-22730573218419840672012-10-30T22:22:29.044-05:002012-10-30T22:22:29.044-05:00Oh, Alex... I cannot believe how similar our mothe...Oh, Alex... I cannot believe how similar our mothers are. I mean - clones of one another. Unreal.<br /><br />As you know from a comment on someone else's blog - you and I apparently have the same therapist as well ;) It is good for us to remember his/her advice - that these are our mothers' problems and not ours. But I do feel that they become our problem when they do nothing to bond with our children.<br /><br />Sigh.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-48328760796475683262012-10-30T22:11:29.434-05:002012-10-30T22:11:29.434-05:00Wow, this sounds terrible. So sorry she isn't...Wow, this sounds terrible. So sorry she isn't more present and helpful.Still A Guest Roomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14704376303400886837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-32907818149549672702012-10-30T21:25:47.634-05:002012-10-30T21:25:47.634-05:00I'm sorry that your mom is like that. I can...I'm sorry that your mom is like that. I can't imagine having a grandchild and just being "eh" about them. And 2 more on the way and she can't even say congrats knowing how hard this is for ya'll?!? Unfortunately, it is probably best for you all to leave the decision to be in your lives up to your mom. You can't have her negativity shadowing all ya'll, so is she wants to know them and you, she has to change or it's her loss.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03357280337675044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-1582349538623198722012-10-30T20:37:53.568-05:002012-10-30T20:37:53.568-05:00Man, that all sounds so hard to deal with :( Maybe...Man, that all sounds so hard to deal with :( Maybe because I have a good relationship with my mom. I'm really reliant on her and I don't know how people who don't have that support can do it.<br />Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03310299759661498386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-74289619704381832712012-10-30T20:07:33.289-05:002012-10-30T20:07:33.289-05:00Wow, your mom in seriously unbelievable. Seriously...Wow, your mom in seriously unbelievable. Seriously!! I'm glad you have such a good outlook on it, though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-56187751501628273892012-10-30T19:40:02.310-05:002012-10-30T19:40:02.310-05:00Wow, I'm so sorry you have had to endure a rel...Wow, I'm so sorry you have had to endure a relationship like that. You deserve better. I'm so sad for you and Alex. I guess once you realize you can't change how other people think it makes things easier. At least it did for me when dealing with my MIL. It is kind of freeing to accept things and move forward instead of getting stuck in the past. <br /><br />Good luck at your u/s tomorrow!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07687848140471196822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-62514120337906380242012-10-30T19:35:17.190-05:002012-10-30T19:35:17.190-05:00Negativity can suck the life out of you. That mus...Negativity can suck the life out of you. That must have been one LOOOOOOOONNNGGG weekend! I hate what she said about the twin thing, you'd think she would be over the moon for you. It's one thing for random strangers to make negative comments about it (which they will, trust me) but not your mom. <br />Anyways, you survived and you have the right perspective on things. KChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08989150563618588708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-71653717376542051202012-10-30T16:47:26.165-05:002012-10-30T16:47:26.165-05:00I had to put on a sad smile at the thought of Alex...I had to put on a sad smile at the thought of Alex playing the piano and her having that response (the smile because of a little one making glorious music, the sad because she doesn't quite seem able to "get" it) And her response to you having twins just makes me really sad/mad. I'm sorry that your relationship with her is in the place it is in... you're a brave woman to try to make it better, and a smart one for being able to keep the perspective and not internalize all this *stuff*...Gemini Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08409428109902242679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-71078949291717535322012-10-30T16:37:52.169-05:002012-10-30T16:37:52.169-05:00WOW I am so sorry your mom acts this way!! But at ...WOW I am so sorry your mom acts this way!! But at least Alex has one fabulous grandmother who wants to be there all the time!!<br /><br />hang in there!! xoxoxoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03721915440302629530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-76526793529271184052012-10-30T16:27:02.453-05:002012-10-30T16:27:02.453-05:00wow, she really is a piece of work. I'm so sor...wow, she really is a piece of work. I'm so sorry you had to deal with all of that growing up, but it's great that you are free of it now and able to see that it's all her, it's not you.<br /><br />I'm sure you can find someone more willing and capable of caring for Alex when you need someone! So glad your MIL is great with Alex :-)ALhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150067629614839175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-58657990055623924042012-10-30T15:46:05.358-05:002012-10-30T15:46:05.358-05:00Wow- my jaw dropped when I read about her reaction...Wow- my jaw dropped when I read about her reaction to the twins. How awful. I am so sorry you don't really have a mother. At least your MIL sounds delightful. Good for you for realizing it's NOT you, it's her. And not being able to commit to 4 days a year. COME ON. Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06074856757394183697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-55846641068669906572012-10-30T15:10:19.601-05:002012-10-30T15:10:19.601-05:00I'm very proud of you for accepting who she is...I'm very proud of you for accepting who she is and being ok with it. I'm sure that was hard to do, and I can't believe how unhelpful she was with Alex. Who wouldn't want to spend time with her sweet grandchild? You are right, you can't change who she is so you just have to move on if you are ok with that. She couldn't even commit to one day every three months?? Wow...Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16875307109685150842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073547614166371090.post-52171173183389101502012-10-30T14:53:35.885-05:002012-10-30T14:53:35.885-05:00While I'm so sorry that your mom is such a neg...While I'm so sorry that your mom is such a negative person, it's great that you were able to realize that it's not you - it's just her personality. I'm glad your MIL balances out the Grandma scale for Alex!Mel.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17095162408557764223noreply@blogger.com