All right, ladies. I need some help. Please send all the positive vibes you have to California… My best friend in real life just transferred three embryos yesterday, and I’m really hoping at least one sticks!
I first talked about my friend last April here, when I was proud to announce I am an IF mentor. She started her IF treatments last year with Clomid, and unfortunately, it didn’t work. Based on her age (she’ll be 41 in March), her RE suggested that she pass up IUI’s and go straight to IVF. She was so excited to be going through IVF around the same time as me (she thought that meant we will have babies at the same time…). But it’s been nice to have gone through it, and be able to give her advice as she started shots, did the procedures, etc.
She responded amazingly for a 40 year-old woman. She had 19 eggs, 17 of which fertilized, 10 of which made it to 5 day transfer. She had 3 embryos transfer (recommended for 40+ years old), and 7 may be frozen, depending on what they look like today. I spoke with her last night, and she’s over the moon – so excited! And I’m excited for her!
I really hope this works. I would rather it work for her than me – I have more time. I have always felt bad about talking about my age issues when talking to her – she’s 5 years older than me and she reminds me of this constantly! She’s been such a good friend to me for such a long time, and she has been great through my infertility struggles. She even sent me flowers when I had the miscarriage in June.
When I found out we were going through IVF together, I bought matching fertility bracelets for the two of us. Although I haven’t been successful with IVF (YET!), I really hope this works for her. There’s something in the back of my head that needs it to be successful for her. I don’t know how to explain it, but I think I’ll be happier for her success than mine! I guess part of it is because I’ll be so nervous during my own pregnancy based on my history, and I have no reasons to be nervous for her – she’s never been pregnant.
We both have a dream of being pregnant together, and raising babies together. (We don’t even live in the same state, we rarely see each other, but we talk at least 1-2 times per week.) As soon as she heard my FET transfer date (February 11), she immediately figured out that we will be a month apart. I’m so afraid of any other result than both of us getting pregnant. I’m afraid of what it will do to our friendship – although I know we’re strong enough friends to handle it, I hope we don’t have to! But if it has to be either one of us that gets pregnant, instead of both, I hope it’s her. I really do. So please gather all the positive sticky healthy baby vibes you can muster, and send them to California. Send her peaceful 2WW vibes, and maybe me too. I feel like I’m in a 2WW too!
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Sending sticky baby dust to your friend in Cali, and positive, calming, peaceful 2ww vibes to both of you. (((Hugs)))
ReplyDeleteThinking of you and your friend and hoping this works for her! And you as well!
ReplyDeleteHooray! How nice to have a friend who knows what you're going through, and the other way around!
ReplyDeleteI'm hoping it works for her too!!! Please let us know once she finds out!
ReplyDeleteThinking of her and sending lots of luck westward :)
ReplyDeleteFrom one old-egg girl in California to another, I hope it works for her (and you, of course)! Those stats or retrieval and fertilization give me hope.
ReplyDeleteHope you are doing well!
Yeah, I know what you mean-- If it doesn't work for her, it will seem like EVERYTHING is hopeless (aside from just wanting it to work for her because you care about her-- but the selfish aspect is there too-- you need hope). But then if it does work, you'll be jealous. But then if it doesn't work for her and yours does, you'll feel extra bad. Basically there IS only one good outcome to this, and I can see why you're scared-- You have to face the odds of 2 infertile women getting pregnant at around the same time???
ReplyDeleteUgh... I am sending her AND you positive vibes. I would love for you guys to get to share pregnancy. But I gotta say, if it has to be her or you, I'm rooting for YOU (since I don't know her). :)
What a sweet post.
ReplyDeleteAll my positive energy is right now on its way across the globe. Keep us posted, k?
Wow, she sure did have a great response! I will be rooting for your friend (and you too of course)!
ReplyDeleteThat is a great response. Good luck to your friend!
ReplyDeleteSending lots of baby dust to both of you for this cycle! Nice to have a friend that knows what it's like.
ReplyDeleteSending lots of good thoughts for your friend.
ReplyDeleteAnd, I know what you mean about it working for her -- I have a cousin who is going through IF, too, and sometimes I think I want it more for them than for us. It's weird.
Fantastic response for her! I hope that she gets great news in a couple of weeks and that your babies are born a month apart :-).
ReplyDeleteSO great you have an IF friend IRL
Alex lots of positive vibes to your friend! remember I also have a friend (who just turned 46!) and she did get pregnant with IVF and her own eggs and I got pregnant shortly after with my FET! So it's a great omen!
ReplyDeleteYour IVF buddy! I am sending her lots of good thoughts. She is a rockstar, producing all those lovely embies!
ReplyDeleteFX for your friend! Sending tons of good vibes in that general easterly direction :)
ReplyDeleteSending lots of positive thoughts for your friend and for YOU! It's really great that you've been able to help her go through this. And, yes, that is a fantastic response for being 40. I hope it all works out!
ReplyDeleteYou are such a sweet person to wish for this for your friend and not yourself. I get why you would be more nervous for your own pregnancy though! Your friend really did have an amazing response-how great! 3 embies is a lot, let's hope she gets twins. Take care :)
ReplyDeletethoughts and prayers for you both!
ReplyDeleteSending lots of positive vibes your way!
ReplyDeleteFingers crossed. For BOTH of you!
ReplyDeleteyou are such a good friend. Your friend in California is so lucky to have you. Makes me miss my friendship with my bff...we have really let our friendship get blinded by distance. Sending positive vibes! keep us posted:)
ReplyDeleteI will pray for your friend in my meditation. I really hope that her embryos grow into healthy baby/s.
ReplyDeleteAll vibes of amazing and Wheeee are being sent!
ReplyDeleteSending loads of well wishes and good luck vibes both of your ways! I've got my fingers crossed. :)
ReplyDeleteSo many good thoughts to her...and to you of course! I hope so badly that you two can experience the joyous parts of pregnancy together, and both bring home lovely babies later this year xxxxxxxxx
ReplyDeleteSending warm fuzzies to the both of you!
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ReplyDeleteI so hope this will work for you both! Because it's true, every other outcome would be tough. This is in fact a concern I have with the few other infertiles I know in "real life", who are much older than I am...
ReplyDeleteFingers crossed!