Saturday, January 15, 2011

So Stupid!

When we discussed our plan for the FET, the doc said the general protocol is to start BCP’s when you’re period starts, start Lupron around day 17-19, then have a period, start estrogen for your uterine lining to get thick, 17 days after that, do a transfer. We had the appointment with the doctor on day 12. I asked if we needed to wait until the next cycle, and he said no. We could start Lupron this cycle, if we assured him we weren’t pregnant. We hadn’t even had sex this month – of course I could assure him this!

And then… last night, we had some drinks, and in a moment of foolishness, we had sex. In the moments after, as I was in post-sex bliss, the hubs asked, “Is the doctor going to be mad at us?” Oh crap – I forgot! I had told the hubs after our appointment on Monday, either we try naturally this month, which would be the next couple of days, or we just go for the FET. Neither of us have any confidence in us conceiving naturally – this has never happened. So the hubs calmed me down last night by reminding me that it’s too late – yesterday was day 16. I’ve never ovulated past day 14.

But I just went to the bathroom, and found copious amounts of EWCM. I didn’t have any all week – just creamy stuff, but it never reached the point of egg whites. I’ve heard that semen can look like cervical fluid, but 12 hours later? At that point it’s all liquefied, right? I just did some research – Lupron causes birth defects – don’t get pregnant while on Lupron. I’m supposed to start Lupron on Monday.

I know your advice is to ask my doctor, but I don’t want to – I’m embarrassed to ask! I can’t believe we did something so stupid. And it’s probably going to delay us a month. I’m 99% confident that we won’t get pregnant – it’s too late, my chances are slim to none that it will work, but what if it does? What if this EWCM means I haven’t ovulated yet? Crap!!!

28 comments:

  1. Hm. Tricky situation. For your own piece of mind, I'd wait to start Lupron until next month - just in case. Imagine that a couple of weeks from now you find out you were pregnant, and you've been taking Lupron. Your doctor would probably suggest an abortion, and if you didn't go through with it, you'd spend your entire pregnancy worrying whether your child would have birth defects.
    I know how frustrating it is for you to have to postpone your plans for one more month, especially because the chances of you getting pregnant are slim, but waiting one more cycle to start Lupron will buy you an invaluable piece of sanity.

    Good luck.

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  2. Never be embarrassed to ask your doc anything lovely lady otherwise you might need a new doc. Good luck this cycle!

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  3. I am sure this same situation has been asked to your doctor before. Most likely he will say play it safe an wait though....
    As for your question about the semen resembling EWCM, I believe it does from my experience...

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  4. Oh, that sucks!!! To have protection when you feel so hopeless about the possibility of a pregnancy coming out of this! I agree with the ladies above-- you didn't use protection, so you'll have to postpone. Of course you have to tell your doctor what happened! On the sunny side of all this, I am very happy for you that you forgot about all this ART crap in a moment of passion! Sounds like things are going great on the relationship front! How fabulous would it be-- to get your baby on a 'break'! I'm hoping hard that passion wins over science here.

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  5. Could you take some OPK tests to see if you ovulate today or tomorrow? I would also bring it up with the doctor as well, I think it is important to let them know. I was always confusing EWCM with semen (TMI?)

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  6. Eeeeek....definitely tricky. I know you don't want to ask your doc, but it sounds like you are going to have to.

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  7. For what it's worth, I've read that while EWCM and semen can look alike, EWCM stretches much farther. So getcher fingers in there! (Sorry.) I hope you don't get delayed by this, but probably better to be safe? Wish you didn't have to deal with the frustration.

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  8. Tishi, thanks for the suggestion. I took an OPK test - was definitely not positive - just the very faintest second line. But you ladies are right, I need to ask my doc what he thinks... Ugh!

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  9. I'd just skip this month even if there's less than 1% chance of you having conceived. That one percent may or may not be you :)

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  10. Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. It sucks to get to such an uncertain point! I agree to talk to the doc, although I know it would be tough for me to do, too. I think I'd wait in this situation although I know how tough that will be.

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  11. Why is it when we are told NOT to have sex, sex becomes more attractive?

    I don't know what to say. I think I'd wait.

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  12. can you go take an opk and see if you ovulated? maybe that would help, and then you can call the doctor, I am SURE that they have heard much worse than that and will tell you what to do :)

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  13. What a time to swept away in a moment of passion! Yes, definitely going to have to call the doc about this and it stinks that you may have to wait another month. I was so mad when my IVF got delayed by an extra month, but it ended up WORKING so I'm certainly not upset about it now. Hoping it will work out just the same for you!!

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  14. I agree with the other peeps that sounds like your relationship is going well, which is good! But yes, you should delay the cycle, or ask the doc if you should delay the cycle. Hope you don't have to!

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  15. I hate having an opinion that I myself would not want to take, but I think you do need to talk with your doc. I am happy however that you had some good, old fashion "knocking the boots". Libido can just go out the window with this stuff.

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  16. Oh shoot!!! I don't know what to say! I hope you don't have to delay your cycle. What a tough one. I'll be thinking of you.

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  17. oh boy. curious to know what you're going to do. i feel ya though :o) xoxo.

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  18. Well, at least you and your hubs had a special night between the two of you - and just might have made a baby! Don't feel embarrassed to ask your doctor. Like others said, I'm sure they hear far stranger questions.

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  19. No, not stupid. Maybe bad timing, or very good timing! Hope you can get some good advice on this, with a quick decision. Frustrating if you need to wait though.

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  20. My EWCM never really correlated with ovulation, but definitely talk to the doc and see what he thinks. Sorry you're stressed out by this :(

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  21. Oops :-(. Like the other commenters have said, definitely talk to the doctor and see what he says. For me, I would much rather be safe than worrying about it the whole time, so maybe it's best to take a month off and then get back into it next month?

    glad you had a bit of fun with the hubby over the weekend ;-)

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  22. What appears to be EWCM could definitely be semen, even 12 hours later. Sometimes I have it coming back out for a full 24 hours after we've done the deed. I know it isn't CM because it is days after or days before a positive OPK. I wouldn't stress about it too much. Infertility gives us plenty of other things to stress over.

    But, if you aren't positive, definitely call your doctor. What man doesn't understand how sometimes the mood hits and you forget about everything else? It is a scientific fact that our brains shut down in the face of arousal. :)

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  23. Like most of the gals...I hate to be mother like but I would wait....You never know you could get pregnant naturally...these days can never say never...Me and the hubs had it happen twice after 5yrs of treatment with no success so you never know:)

    But yeah I would def wait and to be honest I think its awesome that IF hasnt completely ruined you and hubs passion in the bedroom...Good for you guys:)

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  24. oh yikes - I would talk to your Dr, don't be embarrassed about it, it's an honest mistake and I bet you arent the only one who's done it! It is defintely better to be safe than sorry - yes it's unlikely that you would conceive...but what if you did, and the lupron caused a birth defect? Talk to your Dr...it may not be as dire as you think!!

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  25. It's rarely a stupid mistake to have (and enjoy) spontaneous sex with your husband :). I wouldn't freak out about the ewcm. I often thought I was having it for the whole day after sex, only to notice it had dried up by that evening and was back to creamy or whatever. That semen sticks around a long time. I guess it's Monday already, so you've made your decision--what did you decide?

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