It’s official, it didn’t take long, but I have officially reached the point of complete restlessness, want to know now, when will I be able to know, can’t stand working, can’t stand being at home, why can’t I know, surf the internet, read other blogs, when’s the earliest I can test, want to know now, really need to work, can’t stand it… craziness.
The very cool thing about IVF is the first part of the 2WW is taken up by events: getting over the retrieval; how many did we retrieve?; how many fertilized?; how many should we transfer?; bed rest. So that helped my restlessness last week. Now that I’m through all of that…what do I do now?? I’m back at work, got caught up with most everything yesterday, and now I don’t know what to do with my time. Sure, I have other stuff I should be doing at work, but nothing URGENT. Which means it doesn’t need to be done – anytime soon. Oh, I’m the ultimate procrastinator during the 2WW. And then there’s the other thing. How is the 2WW calculated in this IVF world? I had the retrieval on 12/7, so I should be 9 days into the 2WW, right? In my IUI crazy times, I’d start testing around 10dpo (I got a BFP on 10dpo!), but that seems too early – isn’t it? Especially considering I’ve only had these embryos in me since 12/12 – 4 days… So that would make me 4dp5dt, right? I know none of these dates and labels really matter – I’ll find out at some point, but oh I want to know!
And don’t ask me when my beta is – I don’t really know. Maybe Monday, but the clinic certainly didn’t call it a beta… Last week, when we established my transfer date, I asked the nurse when my beta is, and she said they’ll let me know. I was so confused – how will you let me know? I finally figured out that they bring IVF patients in 2-3 times per week after bed rest to monitor hormone levels. So I went in yesterday, they told me my estradiol and progesterone look good, continue my meds, and I don’t need to come in to my previously scheduled appointment on Friday – just come in on Monday. But they didn’t tell me what was going to be tested… I think they sneak in an hCG test and don’t really tell the patients unless it’s good news. I don’t know, I’m just guessing…
As you can see, I’m driving myself nuts, I’m trying to be calm and distract myself, but it’s just not working. So my question is to you ladies – when do you think I can reliably test? Not test to get a “for sure” result, but a “pretty sure” result will work for me. Because I’m obsessed… And I’ve never been one of those “wait for beta” kind of people… I admire all of you that do that, but it’s just not for me!
(And just as a reminder, I didn’t do an hCG trigger – I did a Lupron trigger – so there’s nothing in my system other than what these embies produce…)
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The "secret testing" thing would make me nuts!!! Good luck staying distracted... IVF 2ww always seem to go by quickly...from the outside, that is!! I can imagine it must be torture from your side.
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Breath? Dang all the pressure! I've crossed everything and I'm waiting anxiously. Not as anxiously as you because - girl - you got that market cornered. :-) Hang in there. It will only be what will seem like a hundred years...err... I mean hundred hours? to wait.
ReplyDeleteUgh, this is the worst part! I am one that never POAS. I just wait for dear AF to show, so I'm not sure when a good safe-test date would be. Maybe with the weekend coming up you can fill it full of activities to keep you busy!
ReplyDeleteI have no idea on the testing thing. I always just wait for 12dpo.
ReplyDeleteI thought I read somewhere that the test should be right as soon as 4 days after implanting. But who would know when they implanted???
Good luck, I would tell you to not drive yourself crazy . . . but I think we might be past that point (understandably)!!!
My office tests me 12 days post transfer, which will be 9dp5dt. You might have a few more days of waiting, but I'm not sure because I am an IVF virgin, too.
ReplyDeleteOh lordy! The wait!!!
Man, who knows? I hope someone with IVF experience can help! I'd probably just start tomorrow and keep peeing through the weekend if I were you-- or maybe I wouldn't, I'd want to hold on to hope a little longer?? In any case, you're gonna know SOON.
ReplyDeleteAnd then I don't envy you what's ahead... more waiting! For the heartbeat, for 12 weeks, for viability, for full term, for the due date... does this wait ever go on and ON!!!
Your post is making me anxious and ready to poas! Good luck
ReplyDeleteI agree...your post is making me restless and anxious!!
ReplyDeleteIt seems like 12dpo (or past retrieval) would be the earliest to test with a fighting chance at a reliable result. Of course I advise waiting...but I know how much good that will do :).
ReplyDeleteUgh, I'm sorry this wait is so frustrating - but hopefully it will be your last one for a very long time!
ReplyDeleteAt first I was like - how does she not know when her beta is??? I would have followed my nurse home until she told me! But the monitoring you descibed makes perfect sense - for them, unfortunately.
I vote for at least 12dpt. My clinic does a beta at 14dpt, but I've heard of clinics that do 12dpt.
Crossing everything that this is finally it for you! Hang in there!!!
are you gonna test early?? they still haven't told you when your beta is??? hang in there!! xoxo. ps - in answer to your question, i think we're having a girl. no one i know has guessed a boy so far. ppl can only picture me with a girl apparently.
ReplyDeletegood luck! I don't know how you're doing it - the 2ww is awful but I can't imagine how hard it would be after IVF.
ReplyDeleteoh my god, I hate math. That would drive me absolutely crazy. Makes you wish that Costco would sell 800 pregnancy tests in one package for the low low price of 3 bucks. I would just hold out as long as you can.. do you have any ovulation test kits? I peed on those for 5 days before I was "supposed" to test and they got a little darker each day and I got a smiley face that I ovulated when in fact I was actually pregnant. But I don't know how all the medicines you've taken would affect that or how reliable using the OPK is. Good luck to you, and I will be crossing my fingers for you :) Stay strong!
ReplyDeleteThe waiting must be terrible. Don't test too early, but I totally understand you wanting to. Don't be too hard on yourself if you give in!
ReplyDeleteI feel your frustration! Last FET I did, I POAS every day starting 4dp5dt, saw a FAINT shadow of a line at 9dp5dt and stopped when that line unfortunately returned to stark white around 12dp5dt.
ReplyDeleteI'm keeping my fingers crossed that you'll see that beautiful strong second line as early as 7dp5dt and that it keeps getting stronger after that!!
With our last IVF I got as positive 7dp3dt very faint line but then of course daily it got darker...I always use pregnancy test...digital on first test one that says pregnant/not pregnant then if positive I would pee on a first response one to see the double lines...Yep Im crazy but its the truth:) Hopefully you can find some distractions from this waiting waiting waiting:(
ReplyDeleteHi sweetie, I decided to test 10 days post transfer. You know my history and I know yours and I was terrified of seeing a faint BFP so almost didn't POAS at all. But I would go with 10 days because if you were testing with a natural cycle, O date would be the same as the retrieval date with IVF. When you're just TTC you'd POAS 14 days post O usually so hope that makes sense. Basically what I mean is, when you are 10 dp5dt that would be equal to the 14 days in TTC land. In a roundabout way but I'm tired!! Email me if you need-anxiousmummy@hotmail.com
ReplyDeleteThinking of you!!
Last comment I promise-hold out as long as you can so that you can see a stronger result. GO BFP!!
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oh, not even knowing when they will do a beta, that would drive me nuts (or probably just make me test on my own... not that patient, I am) -- thinking of you!
ReplyDeleteWishing you all the luck in the world!!! I need you to get a BFP to make my 2010 better, please...but no pressure!
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Hmmm, I surprised they didn't schedule you for your beta. NOT that I know anything about IVF 'cept what I read on the blogs, but you'd think they would have scheduled a date. They're the experts, though. And we all just have to trust in them. Good luck during this anxious time! *thinking of you*
ReplyDeleteMy clinic has you come in 15 days after transfer for the beta. I know, it's a long time. Hang in there!!
ReplyDeleteI don't have enough of the hormone to register on sticks so I always waited to test on cycle day 31. The line was so faint with the twins, lol. I keep myself busy with books and movies. Hang in there lady. If I could speed up time for you I would.
ReplyDeleteNothing, nothing, nothing is as bad as the IVF 2ww.
ReplyDeleteJust do me a favor after my false positive- please only use First Response Early Response. I've done research since and they are 97% effective.
11 dp retrieval is iffy, but some people get positives
12 dp retrieval is pretty good, very rare to have a negative this day, though does happen, and people are still bfp
13 dp retrieval is pretty damn reliable.
Good luck!
Wow, this must be a very exciting time yet frustrating because of course you want to know as soon as possible! Crossing my fingers for a positive result!!
ReplyDeleteI can't believe they are being so vague!! That would drive me insane - but it's so funny what we put up with - like if we ask too many questions they may kick us out of the clinic!
ReplyDeleteI have no idea how they count IVF cycles either. How many days does it take out of the TWW? I would probably wait a week after transfer and then test, but maybe they will test you sooner? I don't know! All I know is I am rooting for you and that GREAT BIG BFP!
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