I have officially made it to the point where I am not handling the wait well. I find out if this IUI worked one week from tomorrow, and every day is so slow. Everything annoys me, I can’t sit still, I need to be distracted by work and other things, but I find myself wasting time at work – not getting anything done, because I surf the internet, or read blogs, or do anything but getting my mind off this stupid wait! I’ve told the Hubs that we need to do something really fun and distracting this weekend, but he doesn’t want to do anything! I’m really trying to express my needs during this time, but he doesn’t seem to get it. We’re not in the best place right now…
I also have started to plan my testing strategy. Last IUI, I started testing around 9dpo, and that was ridiculous. Not only did it increase my stress level, but I never tested positive. The morning of my beta, it was negative. Imagine my surprise when the nurse called that afternoon and said my blood test was positive. Granted, it was only at 25, and the good tests just start detecting around 25, but still, it drove me nuts. It was so low because it turned out to be ectopic, but boy those were some nice days when I thought I was having a baby… I’m going to try to wait to test until the morning of my beta, but boy it will be hard. Maybe the day before? What do you guys think is the best strategy? Can’t believe I’m thinking about all this now – I have a week to go! How in the world will I make it????
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Argh, the 2ww is just terrible. Good luck with the wait.
ReplyDeleteMy suggestion: Even if your hubby doesn't want to do something fun. Get a quick hobby! I started needle pointing a belt during my last IVF and I finished it in 5 weeks, usually it takes people like 12 weeks to a year to finish. I had to put my time toward something. What is something you could focus on around the house and feel good as you are completing it? That's how I look at things. Hmmm, I think I need to focus on something myself this weekend. Perhaps a little landscaping? :) Good luck!
ReplyDeletegirl - you just need to blog a lot more so that we can keep you company in the next 2 weeks. this waiting around totally sucks. i had a chemical pregnancy with ivf, but there were a brief 2 days when i thought i was actually pregnant. i've vowed never to test again, but realistically, i probably will the morning before beta. can you hold out that long? pls try. otw, it's just a mindf*ck that you really don't need. how about you plan something fun for this weekend and DRAG hubby out at the last minute. is the alternative that he wants to just stay home and watch tv??? how bout planning somehting HE likes to do just to get him out of the house (the things we do!!!). or, worst case, threaten him that you'll cry all weekend if he doesn't agree to a fun activity :o)
ReplyDeleteHang in there! You'll make it! The 2ww is the worst and (at least for me) progesterone makes me, literally, crazy. So, as if it's not bad enough that you're on pins and needles about the outcome, you're taking crazy drugs. Re: testing, I had similar experience and have vowed not to test again (although I came close last cycle). Knowing what I know now, I didn't want to get a positive HPT just to be told again that it was a low HCG count and then have the HCG level rollercoaster up and down in what they originally thought was an ectopic, but turned out just to be in utero, non-viable.
ReplyDeleteOne other thing: a week before the beta date in our last IVF round, my husband proposed that we do a one-night getaway the weekend after we would get the beta (on a Friday). It turned out to be the best thing. We had a terrible Friday night getting the negative beta news; and driving on Saturday morning wasn't entirely pretty, but by the time we made it to the hotel and did a little sightseeing and went out to dinner, we had totally worked through it. And I was so, so glad to have had something to do other than mope around the house all weekend about our negative beta. Don't know if you can convince your husband to do this or not, but it really helped us.
Definitely plan to get out. I've been picking up projects where I'm extremely busy with my hands during that last week. Cooking, gardening and, well, woodworking (or mostly pulling down wallpaper for this last time). Pick up that phone book and make some dinner for friends. I know how hard it is to keep your mind off of things, but it will drive you absolutely bonkers if you don't.
ReplyDeleteHang in there!
Ah, horrible stage 6!!! How I hate it! Sucks so bad!
ReplyDeleteIf your husband doesn't want to do anything, maybe you should plan a trip to visit a girlfriend? One who knows what you are going through and will happily take you shopping for lingerie, veg out and eat ice cream while watching Buffy/ Sex in the City/ Real Housewives/ Girly show of your choice reruns, and (hey why not?) check out cute boys at the mall/beach. Sounds fun! I almost want to do that myself, and I'm not even ON stage 6 or on the outs with E...
This wait is the WORST. You saw me whine my way through it last week.
ReplyDeleteCan you enlist a friend to keep you busy if hubs won't? Busy and distracted is KEY. And know when to walk away from Dr. Google. It can make you crazy.
And I am a compulsive pee-er so you don't want me to tell you when you should pee.
Do you have any shopping you need...or want...to do? That might be a nice distraction this weekend. If you enjoy shopping, that is. Or maybe a mani/pedi? The second week of the 2ww totally, totally sucks.
ReplyDeleteI'm not the best one for giving advice, but it you're anything like me I can't hold off during the 2ww. The waiting has got to be the worst, but if you must test than go for it, but somehow prepare yourself for the likelihood of a result that is not in your favour. Yesterday, that was me. Tested at 13 dpiui only to discover that it was a BFN. Cried, but still have to get a blood test done on Sunday. So I feel your impatience. You just never know that things could turn around. Crossing my fingers for YOU and ME.
ReplyDeleteHi Alex,
ReplyDeleteArgh! The 2ww bites the big one. One thing I will say is try to keep the HPT's under lock and key or somehow make hubby responsible for them. Kinda like having chocolate around when you're on a diet. If you know it's there, you are going to use it. I feel your pain of an ectopic. It is so cruel. Thanks for your comments on my blog, good luck!!!
Alex.... send me your address off line. strength.in.mothers@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteI will send you your prize!!!
sorry the wait is so long!!!!