I have to admit, I'm incredibly frustrated. And not in the way that happens at work, or in the car (well maybe...remember high school?) or throughout your regular life. I'm frustrated...sexually. The Hubs is great in that area (or at least he used to be - it's been so long, I can barely remember), so that's not the cause. But I could have sworn there was some paper that I had from the doc that said that I could resume certain activities after we saw the heartbeat. Yesterday, I awoke a little (LOT!) frisky and started some action without really thinking about it, and the Hubs was responsible and asked if I had cleared it with the doc. Let's just say I might have thrown a little mini temper tantrum in bed saying, "I want to have sex!!!" Oh so sexy, I know. But at that point, it wasn't going to happen, so it's not like I needed to intice anyone.
So I just called the RE and spoke with the nurse - about another issue - I promise I didn't call her just because of this! And I asked in a straight-forward manner about my restrictions. The bitch (actually she's very nice, I'm just mad at her) said I should wait until after the first trimester due to concerns about bleeding. WTF!!! I don't want to wait - that's a LONG time away!!! I know people all over the world have sex all the time in early pregnancy. Why are we infertiles so different? The one thing I was sick of when I was TTC naturally - now I can't do at all. Oh wait, maybe it's payback time. Whatever it is, I'm frustrated - oh so frustrated...
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Oh no, you have to wait until your second trimester!?! Well, it will make it that much better when you finally get to do the deed! Best of luck!
ReplyDeleteDid you ask about masturbation? I know the contractions may be the concern, so then that's out, but if it's just a matter of avoiding thrusting movements, well... better than nothing.
ReplyDeleteAlso, WHAT concerns about bleeding????
that stinks babe. every RE is different about when they let you have sexy time again. maybe if you ask again REALLY nicely they'll say yes?
ReplyDeleteps - had to temporarily hide my blog bc a real life friend might've found it. will unhide it later this week :o)
Ugh. Sorry about that, and i know the feeling. Things have been a little frustrating here, too! I think my dh is worried the same way.
ReplyDeleteIt still scares the crap out of me.
ReplyDeleteVery frustrating!! Every time we've done an IUI they've told us to have sex the day after (and never told us not to continue). And, um, well, I had a lot last week during my week 5 (ok, and we were on vacation and it was both my birthday and the husbands' - hee hee!) So, I guess I'm really surprised they told you no sex during first trimester. Unless there's something they're particularly concerned about? Have you made an appointment with an OB yet? Maybe they'd have a different opinion?
ReplyDeleteI know that pain...My doctor told us to have gentle non-penetrative sex until later on in the first trimester. Now what the hell is that?!?!? So we waited until 10 weeks than we decided we could not wait any longer. The first time was so scary because we wanted to be as gentle as possible.. now we don't think about it anymore! Speak to your RE just in case he has a different view from the nurse's! Good luck!
ReplyDeleteYour frustrations are understandable because it's healthy to have sex for pleasure and intimacy, but how much you don't want to hear the advice of the medical staff, I think you should...Why don't you try speaking to the doctor? AND you could try something different in terms of activities that involve no pentetration.
ReplyDeleteI've had it twice in the last week. I'm in my fifth week. Cramps after the big O but everything looks fine. Our RE just said to wait until after first beta, two weeks.
ReplyDeleteIt sucks that IFers are so scared to lose their much awaited pregnancies that it has to alter normal life so much. Any other "normal" pregnant woman would probably not be told to abstain. There's no harm to the baby. I might have a more detailed talk with the doctor (instead of the nurse) at the next appt if I were in your position. Wishing you luck!
ReplyDeleteThat's frustrating indeed! Check back with your RE, also for what exactly they're concerned about.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, though, I know some people are on pelvic rest for most of their pregnancy... :o
Bummer. I'd definitely talk to the doctor again (not just the nurse). Some people say sex during pregnancy is the best sex they've ever had, so it would stink to miss out on a whole trimester's worth.
ReplyDeleteBut on the other hand, you're not that far from the end of the first trimester, right? Hopefully it will go fast!
Sooo totally frustrating!! U can do this though and it will be, umm, pretty awesome when you do.
ReplyDeleteHang in there.
She didn't say no to foreplay. Sorry, not helping.
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